In the post-industrial 21st century, establishing and shaping relationships has become the key success factor: in our professional lives, standardised machines are replace with individualistic humans and in our private lives we see more and more forms of living together.
Research shows that the behaviour of all involved in a relationship is central in determining its quality. One example is the e-mail that I am opening in the morning and that is so challenging that I angrily send an answer back, which I regret after a few minutes. Often in such situations, we are happy if we can leave it quickly behind and save the relationship somehow.
However, we may also use challenges to learn about ourselves. Because a situation becomes a challenge if we are uncertain that we can master it. And through this uncertainty and anxiety, processes established thousands of years ago and leading to a strong emotional behaviour kick in, which can threathen relationships.
In our approach, people observe their behaviour in such challenging everyday relationship situations and learn how they specifically react. Using current thinking in psychology, biology and neurosciences they become more aware of themselves, their emotions, feelings, thoughts and needs, break the automatism in their reactions and switch to a conscious and deliberate action. Doing so, they gain clarity, a choice of options and look into the future in a more relaxed and confident way, allowing them to shape relationships in their own interest and the ones of the others.